Why Gay Marriage Can Never Be a Marriage - Even If the Dictionary Says So!
Posted: Sunday, May 03, 2009
by Nancy Daniels
Voice Dynamic
As long as I'm on my rant, I thought I'd dig my grave even deeper and talk about marriage – specifically marriage between two people of the same sex. (Isn't that an oxymoron?) Marriage is defined as a union between a man and a woman. Oh, my mistake. The dictionaries have changed the definition. Why not? In today's world, it is more important to make everyone feel good about themselves and their choices rather than adhering to a value that has served mankind for thousands of years.
Interestingly, not all homosexuals believe in gay marriage. My brother, a gay, conservative Christian and one of my closest friends, has no intention of marrying his partner and does not believe in gay marriage which places him in the majority.
The issue of gay marriage is not about equality: it is about changing a fundamental and a core value that many of us refuse to accept.
When I cook, I often marry different flavors. If I blend the exact same ingredients, however, I am no longer marrying the flavors because two exact flavors cannot become one: they can only become more of the same.
Marriage is a lot like the blending of oil and vinegar. Shake it up good, add some seasonings, and you have an emulsion known as Italian dressing. Mix two vinegars, on the other hand, and you still have vinegar. Even if you throw in some additional herbs, you still have only vinegar with a bit of seasoning.
If homosexuals can marry, then someone had better come up with a new word for the union of a man and a woman because I need to be able to describe the blending of two different flavors into one and not have to explain which type of marriage I am referring to –the blending of oil and vinegar or the mixing of two vinegars!
To every hopeful Mr.& Mr. or Mrs. & Mrs., you may change the words, you may try to change the institution, but you will never have what the majority have. While you may strive for equality in all facets of your relationship, you can never achieve the blending of two into one no matter what word you choose to call it. You are still just 2 vinegars.
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More commentsHi Nancy!Thanks for speaking up about an issue so many try to hide their heads in the sand about!I hold marriage as a very sacred institution, between a man and a woman, not to be taken lightly, and not to be done for convenience, financial gain, or equal rights.The truth is that were there not so many rules about inheritance and insurance, this might not have ever come up. Same sex couples with one working and one being the home maker end up having some different issues than married couples do, and I do understand that, but the change that needs to be made is not in an instituion that God himself created, but rather in a world ruled by man.Nila,I cannot add anything to your comments except, how true, how true, how true.Thank you for sharing that,Nancy
Nancy,I enjoyed reading this article and I agree with you in all points.NenitaThank you, Nenita,Gosh, I love your name!Nancy
It is political correctness gone mad, people who make these rulings are so afraid of upsetting the minorities that they forget about the bigger picture - everyone! Great article.Samuel,I think this country is heading in a very dangerous direction and it frightens me.Thank you for reading my article,Nancy
The Bible has many verses against homosexuality--Leviticus 18:22-30, Romans 1:26-27, 1 Corinthians 6:9, and Jude 7. I feel that homosexuals can't help what nature has done to them, but I don't believe in gay marriage. If they must defy the Bible, then there should be a union that is not called 'marriage'.Good article.SandraSandra,I agree with your comment. They are entitled to a union with similar rights -- I just can't call it marriage.Thanks for sharing,Nancy
HI Nancy, great explanation which makes a lot of sense. I am a bit behind on things, did the dictionary really change the meaning?? This may be opening another can of worms, but I am confused by your statement that your brother is a practicing gay man and a conservative Christian - Biblically, they do not go together.Anyway, well written article. I love how you have the passion and gusto to share your heart! Keep them coming my dear friend! Hugs, TeresaOh Teresa, dear friend,I had to ruminate on your comments for a day...My brother is gay, conservative in his political views, and believes that Jesus Christ is his Saviour. It is not my place to judge him, only to love him and pray for him.Thank you for sharing,Nancy
i admire the bravery of this author in tackling a very controversial subject ... i personally believe that as long as two people of the same sex who have committed to each other should have some legal rights in regards to financial and parental issues and there should be some sort of legal contract and legal guidelines to go by for them.in these modern times i also have to agree with the author and state that it would be a good idea to come up with some other name for this contract and let "marriage" stand as it always have.get creative with it!Dear Anonymous,I didn't consider it brave to write this article and you are not the first to remark on it. (I did expect some disagreement, however.)I was only speaking truth. I absolutely believe that those in gay civil unions are entitled to the same financial and parental rights as those who are married.What is fascinating, however, is that this article never made it on the main pages or even under Hot Comments or in Current Events and yet my simple article about the Stink Bug got 'good billing.' Go figure.........Thank you for sharing,Nancy
Nancy,I can tell you Amen sister. I have been on a rant regarding the same issue. I believe marriage to also be between a man and a woman. The Bible also tells us how living this lifestyle is not pleasing at all to Him. Remember Sodom and Gomorah? Nontheless, we are to love the sinner and not the sin.God bless
Dear Nancy,I applaud your boldness. I will leave the rest up to Jesus.Sincerely,L. Jones
Enjoyed your article and your analogy. It seems that more and more we are allowing the few to rule the roost. We are losing sight of our Christian principals and moral beliefs. (Heaven knows my life was not the greatest when it came to morality and I paid a high price for that but thank God I came to my senses and admitted my wrong thoughts and actions. I say kudos to your brother for his honesty. God help us. Thank your for sharing.
Nancy, great article. I'm glad to see that not everyone has fallen for lies of political correctness.
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